Why do we push through the pain? In life, in a workout, at work, at home, with the kids, out with friends. We push through the physical and emotional pain that is inevitable in our lives because it’s a basic instinct for human survival. We slap on our smiles when we are sad, pick up the barbell again even when our arms have lost their ability to function, face adversity because we want to stand up for what we believe in, and we love even when we are not loved in return. These human qualities are why we progress and these qualities make us warriors.
So I ask you, when do we need to stop pushing through the pain? When do we need to sit quietly with our thoughts and actually feel our pain and accept it, process it, and be ok with it? I ask you this question because this question is one that I am learning to ask of myself. I am a fighter, I refuse to give up, I tend to be one of those folks who freakishly enjoys pushing through the pain BUT if I refuse to face my pain, I start to crumble.
Last night, I let myself cry and I hate to cry – I’m a stubborn woman and often hide my heart to “be strong” and “push through” but last night I was like an overflowing well. I told my husband why I was sad, just saying out loud what I have to push through gives life’s hardships validity and gives a voice to why we keep going and why it’s hard; I miss my mom, I feel like I’m doing too much, I can’t figure out how to make it all work, and I am afraid that time is going so quickly that I’m missing out on some of those precious little moments. Does this mean that I want to give up, that I’ve lost my strength, that I am weak? No, it was a moment of being real in the safety of my own room, in the arms of someone who loves me, and it was what needed to happen because today, I’m ready again to push through the pain – and I can do so happily, with confidence, and even with joy!!
The moral of the story? It’s ok to admit that life is not always a bed of roses, in fact, we are all better off for it. Maintaining a constant strong persona is not a bad thing but really feeling your pain and honoring that pain every now and then is a healthy way to continue to live your best life with your head held high, knowing that you are human with real emotions and real challenges.
Now I’ll go cook something and post a recipe soon because food is so much more darn fun.