Sometimes I find myself losing a little bit of focus. I’m not talking about staying on track with food in this post; but staying on track with what really matters… I sometimes forget that the end could very well be just the end; and it’s what’s in the middle that counts. Every now and then I forget that if I don’t cuddle enough, love enough, talk or laugh or sing out loud enough that I might not have another chance to do those things that really bring me joy; or most importantly, do those things that really bring my children joy.
You never know when it might be your turn to get off the bus, and I don’t want my turn to come around without having every possible moment “count.”
My favorite memories as a child are those that include laughing with my family. Really laughing. Belly laughing. Seeing the joy filled faces of my loved ones sharing a moment of sheer happiness. My other favorite memories include the ones that involve that feeling of being completely loved by my parents. That special song my mom used to sing to me; the one I try to sing to my kids but I can’t because the tears just flow and because I can still feel my mom’s love. Or, that time when I was sad and my dad stopped everything, scooped me up on his lap and he let me help him steer the riding lawn mower while we rode around for hours in the warm sunshine, laughing and driving in circles. Those moments are my focus that bring me back to reality when I’m having even my hardest of days.
I want my own children to look back at their fondest memories and have them be of John and I loving them, playing with them, laughing with them. When stress swallows me whole, I try to remember that shaking it off and being silly is ok. It feels so good to be a kid again, and I try everyday to have at least one or two “kid” moments, so that my own children know that it’s healthy to play, that it’s ok to not be so darn serious, that it’s perfectly acceptable to turn it all off and just LIVE! So, here’s my challenge to you. Try this tactic and see if your life is not more joyful. See if you can’t help but smile more and worry less. The challenge is simple; try for the next 30 days to be happier! Do this by being determined to let go a little bit more and to find that feeling that allows everything else to slip away and you can be yourself – shining in the moment. I want you to care less what others think of you and care more about the ones that you know will always be there for you no matter what; so if that means talking like a pirate with your 4 year old in the grocery store line rather than scolding him or her for not standing still – than vote for the pirate voice! If that means hugging your loved one when he or she comes through the door rather than shoving the stress of your day into his or her lap, than go for that hug! If it means swallowing your pride and apologizing or if it means taking off your shoes and feeling the grass tickle your toes, or if it’s simply smiling at the person who passes you by then by all means TAKE THAT LEAP!
Let’s all try together to focus on what matters right now; because in the end, I know that I will want precious memories to tip the scales over regrets. With so much negativity in the world around us, it’s extremely challenging to remember that we are responsible for our own joy; but we are, and we can turn things around!
Now, I’m off to do a cartwheel or two, hug a kid or three, and remind my husband that he’s pretty darn cute and that I’m lucky to have him.
Much love to you all and let me know in comments what you’ll be doing to help keep your focus!